The Psychology of Sex and the Paranormal Investigator

So what is there to write about these days? I would bet that if I were to write about something rather naughty everyone would at least take notice. Naughty sells. Oh I have an idea and what a delicious idea it is too. How about the topic of -- the psychology of sex and the paranormal investigator?
Oh com'on be honest, there is certain air of mystery that shrouds one who dabbles in darkness. It is attractive. It is sensual. Isn't it interesting that in high school all the girls would sigh over the young man with the dark thoughts and lone wolf attitude (the James Dean type). Personally I was too busy being the lone wolf myself that I really did not give a shit about morose boys. However, I have observed such behavior from the girls in my classes and have heard it from the boys themselves, "Act like a tortured soul and the girls will think you are so deep and mysterious." 

In my readings I have found more than one reference regarding the use of the title "Paranormal Investigator" to attract the ladies and it seems to work. However, when women announce that they are "Paranormal Investigators" one might think the male reaction would be different. It seems that most men will find a certain intrigue while a few will men feel a bit threatened: after all, exploring the realms of darkness and the unknown belongs to men. Women just do not explore. Women are maintainers not innovators or discoverers. Overall however, a woman announcing to a man that she is a Paranormal Investigator will bring curiosity and with curiosity comes attention and with attention comes open doors of invitation ... shall I continue?


Psychological studies have shown how individuals who are put in stressful situations and emotional tension form strong emotional bonds with others who share the same experience. A prime example of this has been documented regarding war time buddies and folks that have been through some kind of natural disaster together. Paranormal investigations can arouse emotional tension especially in those who are indiscriminate believers of all things paranormal. Everyone deals with fear differently. Here is the investigator, sitting in the dark (an activity that is completely unnecessary other than providing a psychological effect) feeling uneasy with fresh ghostly stories swirling in their heads. The nerves are on edge and the least abrupt sound or shadow causes them to startle. The more heightened the experience the more emotion it evokes. These reported "events" of demon sightings, objects moving on their own or ephemeral figures floating through the air have not only taken place in the very room they are sitting but now also have taken place in the investigator's imagination. This environment is enough to cause levels of emotional stress so as to facilitate a bond with whoever is sitting in the dark room with them at the time. This bond may facilitate feelings between the opposite sex if there was an inclination to have feelings before the emotion/stress event.

And then there is the sheer romanticism of the mysterious night-dwellers. A well known archetype of the night-dweller is the romantic cult of vampirism. The sexual innuendos of the night-dweller,the sheer delight of the "night meeting". Night represents the underworld, death. People sleep (a mock death) at night to pass safely through the morning. Those who night-dwell symbolically defy death by walking among the dead. There are two archetypes that night-dwell. There is the lone hero and there is evil. Batman, Spiderman, Ghost Rider, Night Rider (and many more) all prowl about at night while the city sleeps to combat the forces of darkness. The paranormal investigator is the new night-hero. How sexually attractive and romantic. The more the investigator believes that there is a spirit around every corner the more of a hero they become. It behooves one then to portray ones self not so much the scientist but the one who battles the dark forces. All of this is highly attractive to members of the opposite sex.

So does being a paranormal investigator facilitate sexual attraction? Well it certainly can't hurt given the concepts of mystery, the romance of darkness and the hero that are embedded in this romanticized version of this field. One can see why so few groups are interested in being the skeptic-scientific-critical thinking sort: this takes the romanticism out of this work and removes a lot of the mystery. We (Rocky Mountain Paranormal Research Society) are frequently accused of taking the "mystery out of it". We have also been known not to be much fun because all we do is monitor our equipment during investigations and don't feel the need to shut off all the lights and talk to KII meters or spirits of the dead in a hope to capture some voice from beyond. 

So folks, this wraps up an alternate perspective on the field of paranormal research. Truly a subject that if not considered consciously certainly captures the sub-conscience. Again, this just gives us something a little pleasant to think about. Hey, we all could use any help we can get, why not go for it?